Since I am obsessive compulsive, it is always a major ordeal having company over. It takes me two days, plus the day of the BBQ to clean the house and prepare the food. I don't kow why or when I became so particular about having the house clean before company came, to the point they could eat off the toilet or the floor, but I know my family thinks I am wasting my time. My dad is a slob, so I know I got it from my mom. I remember as a kid that if I didn't mop the floor by hand good enough, she would make me do the whole thing over again. So I suppose I carried this attitude of perfection into adult hood.
I do not like having people in my house if you can visibly see dust on the tables. Something that happens a day or so after I polish the furniture, because we open the windows all over the house. Yesterday I went to te store and bought paste wax and waxed and buffed all of the living room furniture. I overly clean it one afternoon a while back and it left a cloudy film all over the tops of the wood furniture. I haven't been able to get it back to the original lustre since. The wax helped but my over zealous cleaning is going to force me to refinish the furniture. Something I have never done.
We are either going to have either BBQ steak, which will cost a lot, or BBQ chicken, home made potato salad, Citrus green bean salad, Harumi is bringing a pasta salad, and Peter's friends are bringing ribs and dessert. I guess Peter will be making his teriyaki sauce for the marinade. Speakin of I sure wish we could have figured out how to can that stuff. It was the only hold back from selling the stuff.
Friday, June 29, 2007
Tuesday, June 26, 2007
This is my last letter to auntie Prozac
:
I also forwarded a copy of all your emails to Jeff. So don't even try to twist my words around to make you look good and then try to use them for family court. I will get up there and tell a judge exactly what I said and I will bring a copy of everything.
As far as I am concerned I was still ill informed on a lot of things from both sides. And Carol, I think you know now my feelings on you saying you are going to be here and then I don't even get a call until the evening saying you will be home the next day. You ruined our entire day by having us waiting around for you. So don't even tell me Jeff is the irresponsible one and the one who doesn't inform me of things. I think the only difference is that you are atleast willing to see where you were wrong, where as Jeff appears to still believe that I jumped the gun and blamed him for no good cause. This whole thing is exactly what I didn't want. I didn't want to get involved in your guys shit. Here I am though. Smack dab in the middle.
We can't be friends again Carol. I would have liked to have been friends all along, but you became increasing undependable and unreliable and I got sick of it being a one sided relationship and I also got tired of hearing about Jeff did this, Jeff did that. Now the same thing is happening for Jeff. We have beoming increasing close ,but Carol did this and Carol did that is getting old too. There are two sides to every story, I certainly will agree to that. I have said all along to Peter that it isn't just Carol to blame. I don't know how to make it better for either side. All I know is that I don't like being in the middle. I don't like having to hear only one side and being forced to believe that that is the only truth to the story. I don't like not being able like and love both of you.
I would bet a million dollars if I had it to bet, that if both of you made the decision and follow through to treat each other how you would wish to be treated (the golden rule) then none of this would be happening. You would be getting along like two responsible, mature adults.
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Regina
This is her response and I must say this woman is really nuts. No more explanation needed as to why we can't be friends ever again.
Hi Regina:
I agree. You and Peter get put into hellacious situations at Jeff's convenience. Since he feels you are family and 'that's what family's do for one another' he has grown extremely adept at taking advantage of you. Primarily you, since you had to take care of
Seiji the entire week. I know you care for him. In the future, charge Jeff at least $25 - $40 per day or this will continue on for sure, particularly since he has now filed with the court to not EVER have to take Seiji to pre-school. Nothing like dumbing a kid down (not with you, but when he just drives around and Seiji gets to sit in the back seat bored out of his mind). His court document states that he has relatives more than willing to watch Seiji. Hmm - wonder if that's you all.
I'm sorry I was so naive to think that you and I could be friends again. You're wicked fucked up drunk/drug personality comes out and you become one scary lady. Something that will not hold up in court - ever. Also - Family court services is not a jury court and the judge will not allow anyone to stand up and provide their opinion. Jeff tried to stand up once and the Judge vehemently told him to "SIT DOWN". So don't waste your time.
It's too bad that the entire Kosinsky family has turned out to be so vindictive, egocentric, unconscionable, and downright nasty to me. Do you all think that Seiji isn't going to catch on one of these days - it's a guarantee that he will, and he'll likely be disgusted with all of you for lying to him all along. Feel free to pass this along. I'm sick of the rest of you as well. Even my parents and other relatives have recently communicated to me that they felt there was something really off (odd, wrong) with Jeff. Borderline personality disorder is the name of his illness and he needs help soon before he destroys both of his sons, at the expense of you, Peter and Aiden, and then down on through the rest of the family.
Well, I've got enough to do here in preparing a response to Jeff's most recent order to show cause in which he once again attempts to bring up untruths that the Judge has already gotten irritated with. He even goes so far as to state that he has a "great job", (the third in less than 4 years) but then comments on how he can't pay for 1/2 of Seiji's nursery school because he is in bankruptcy. He outright lies that his family can take care of Seiji during the week instead of taking him to daycare on his days. Regina, you might want to discuss this with him
I have a life, unfortunately, you and Peter have chosen the wrong person to be in it so be prepared to be taken advantage of for the next 35-40 years, since Jeff will probably have to move in with you.
At this turn, we do not have anything more to discuss. I will be providing you a copy with the last court order (with mediation report ) and when the future one is completed I'll provide it as well as well as any other relevant information that could endanger you and your family. What Jeff did to you last week, put you in contempt of court and subject to arrest for child kidnapping. I've spoken with the DA, and if should choose to do so, Jeff could be charged with child abandonment immediately. I've been way too lenient with him, but that's over. ending.
Feel free to simply toss the 'Thank You' card that I sent. I had hoped we could be friends. I'm sorry to have gotten mixed up with such a messed up mentally ill group of people to begin with and will be glad when Seiji realizes it and gets out as well.
What do you think folks? I know it isn't even worth my time to reply to this one. Let her think she has won at getting even at me. I really didn't feel angry about this at all and I think it is because I really couldn't give a shit about her opinion.
:
I also forwarded a copy of all your emails to Jeff. So don't even try to twist my words around to make you look good and then try to use them for family court. I will get up there and tell a judge exactly what I said and I will bring a copy of everything.
As far as I am concerned I was still ill informed on a lot of things from both sides. And Carol, I think you know now my feelings on you saying you are going to be here and then I don't even get a call until the evening saying you will be home the next day. You ruined our entire day by having us waiting around for you. So don't even tell me Jeff is the irresponsible one and the one who doesn't inform me of things. I think the only difference is that you are atleast willing to see where you were wrong, where as Jeff appears to still believe that I jumped the gun and blamed him for no good cause. This whole thing is exactly what I didn't want. I didn't want to get involved in your guys shit. Here I am though. Smack dab in the middle.
We can't be friends again Carol. I would have liked to have been friends all along, but you became increasing undependable and unreliable and I got sick of it being a one sided relationship and I also got tired of hearing about Jeff did this, Jeff did that. Now the same thing is happening for Jeff. We have beoming increasing close ,but Carol did this and Carol did that is getting old too. There are two sides to every story, I certainly will agree to that. I have said all along to Peter that it isn't just Carol to blame. I don't know how to make it better for either side. All I know is that I don't like being in the middle. I don't like having to hear only one side and being forced to believe that that is the only truth to the story. I don't like not being able like and love both of you.
I would bet a million dollars if I had it to bet, that if both of you made the decision and follow through to treat each other how you would wish to be treated (the golden rule) then none of this would be happening. You would be getting along like two responsible, mature adults.
--
Regina
This is her response and I must say this woman is really nuts. No more explanation needed as to why we can't be friends ever again.
Hi Regina:
I agree. You and Peter get put into hellacious situations at Jeff's convenience. Since he feels you are family and 'that's what family's do for one another' he has grown extremely adept at taking advantage of you. Primarily you, since you had to take care of
Seiji the entire week. I know you care for him. In the future, charge Jeff at least $25 - $40 per day or this will continue on for sure, particularly since he has now filed with the court to not EVER have to take Seiji to pre-school. Nothing like dumbing a kid down (not with you, but when he just drives around and Seiji gets to sit in the back seat bored out of his mind). His court document states that he has relatives more than willing to watch Seiji. Hmm - wonder if that's you all.
I'm sorry I was so naive to think that you and I could be friends again. You're wicked fucked up drunk/drug personality comes out and you become one scary lady. Something that will not hold up in court - ever. Also - Family court services is not a jury court and the judge will not allow anyone to stand up and provide their opinion. Jeff tried to stand up once and the Judge vehemently told him to "SIT DOWN". So don't waste your time.
It's too bad that the entire Kosinsky family has turned out to be so vindictive, egocentric, unconscionable, and downright nasty to me. Do you all think that Seiji isn't going to catch on one of these days - it's a guarantee that he will, and he'll likely be disgusted with all of you for lying to him all along. Feel free to pass this along. I'm sick of the rest of you as well. Even my parents and other relatives have recently communicated to me that they felt there was something really off (odd, wrong) with Jeff. Borderline personality disorder is the name of his illness and he needs help soon before he destroys both of his sons, at the expense of you, Peter and Aiden, and then down on through the rest of the family.
Well, I've got enough to do here in preparing a response to Jeff's most recent order to show cause in which he once again attempts to bring up untruths that the Judge has already gotten irritated with. He even goes so far as to state that he has a "great job", (the third in less than 4 years) but then comments on how he can't pay for 1/2 of Seiji's nursery school because he is in bankruptcy. He outright lies that his family can take care of Seiji during the week instead of taking him to daycare on his days. Regina, you might want to discuss this with him
I have a life, unfortunately, you and Peter have chosen the wrong person to be in it so be prepared to be taken advantage of for the next 35-40 years, since Jeff will probably have to move in with you.
At this turn, we do not have anything more to discuss. I will be providing you a copy with the last court order (with mediation report ) and when the future one is completed I'll provide it as well as well as any other relevant information that could endanger you and your family. What Jeff did to you last week, put you in contempt of court and subject to arrest for child kidnapping. I've spoken with the DA, and if should choose to do so, Jeff could be charged with child abandonment immediately. I've been way too lenient with him, but that's over. ending.
Feel free to simply toss the 'Thank You' card that I sent. I had hoped we could be friends. I'm sorry to have gotten mixed up with such a messed up mentally ill group of people to begin with and will be glad when Seiji realizes it and gets out as well.
What do you think folks? I know it isn't even worth my time to reply to this one. Let her think she has won at getting even at me. I really didn't feel angry about this at all and I think it is because I really couldn't give a shit about her opinion.
This is the kind of shit I put up with the last few days and last week
Date: Tue, 26 Jun 2007 00:32:41 -0700
From: carol
Subject: RE: Re the strange stories we hear!!!
To:
Jeff - You are so full of doo doo.
Plus you know that this is not my correct e-mail address.
But ha! Now I know 2 of yours. Naah naah naah
jeff wrote:
Carol now has a record with the county DA for assault and domestic abuse, its the last time she hits or kicks me in front of my son and is allowed to get away with it.
The sheriff went to her door , she was was too paranoid to answer , so only my statement was taken and recorded , this along with all the verbal, phone (recorded) threats and written threats show a very good picture of who she really is. I have collected quite a record of her narcissistic and psychotic behavior.
It will be very powerful in court an/or mediation.
Seiji has also said, "Mommy burned me" and "mommy hit me." I have photos and witnesses of his injuries. So next is CPS.
She also tells me that she is no longer on antidepressants, this is probably a lie, but if true, it could be even more dangerous for Seiji. She lies continuously about her having interviews for jobs, her car is broke down, etc. She also drops Seiji off with her drug addict friend Terri, I know this because Seiji tells me.
Love,
Jeff
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From: me
To: jeff
Subject: FW: Re the strange stories we hear!!!
Date: Mon, 25 Jun 2007 16:23:31 +0000
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Love, Regina
-------------- Forwarded Message: --------------
From: Carol
To: me and carol
Subject: Re the strange stories we hear!!!
Date: Sun, 24 Jun 2007 10:26:44 +0000
HI again - I think I already addressed all the information below in my first e-mail!
The only reason I said anything to Jeff about police/sherriff's is to try to get him to understand that he's putting you all in a predicament by not letting me know where my little boy is! I am supposed to be kept informed where he is, whether he's with family or others. Jeff's interpretation of family law, the mediator's report, and the judge's orders, is not accurate (not to mention that he fully irritates the hell out of the Judge, but that's another story). Jeff really does think that if he's with family, then I have no right to know anything. He does NOT consider what is in Seiji's best interest at all, and that's the important thing that the court emphasizes over and over. Monica told me that he even used to refuse to tell her where he lived which is against both state and federal law, but Jeff is apparently exempt.
I'm very much in agreement about what you state below regarding schedules, wheraqbouts etc. Even if I were at a conference, I would provide you that Emergency number for the p eople putting on the conference as well as a hotel number! You and I are very much alike in that we want to know what store you're going to and when you're getting back. When someone is a minute late I start to panic and will call over and over. I've always appreciated that about you as well. For some of the silly things you and I have done in our lives, there are those certain rules that we are sticklers too!
I do hope to talk with you soon!
Love,
Carol
(REMEMBER - different e-mail!!!)
I wrote:
Carol,
Now I am told by Jeff that you knew before you even left town that I would be watching Seiji. Why then did you say he didn't notify you? Why then didn't you call me and let me know exactly when you are picking Seiji up? Why are you know threatening to call the cops on Jeff's family? He said you have called him again and that you are threatening to call the cops on us. For what? Taking lovingly care of your child is a crime? Since when is it a crime?
I told Jeff that it is absolutely no problem to watch Seiji. My biggest problem is just not knowing when I can expect him to be picked up. I don't think that is unreasonable request and I am disappointed that this whole thing is now totally blown up. Jeff is now pissed at me and thinks that I don't want to watch his son. NOT THE CASE. As I said, I was told one thing and then when I called to verify it, I get a different story. Sorry Jeff you didn't tell me you talked to Carol about him being here. And no I wouldn't have reason to assume that you are required to notify Carol that I am watching him. As you know, I do not share custody of Aiden so I don't have personal experience with this. Jeff you told me before that you are NOT required to notify Carol when he is being watched by family. So that is why I didn't know you told her. I didn't get a call from her stating when she would be coming so again I wouldn't ha ve reason to believe you told her. Don't know who's fault it is, but if I watch Seiji again I need to know the specifics. Seiji has been no trouble at all. I am a planner and I pay attention to detail. I don't like not knowing what is going on. Even if a different route is taken to the grocery store I will ask where are you going, I thought you were going to the grocery store. That is who I am. I want to know what is going on at all times.
Sorry Jeff that you are so terribly worried about Seiji as I stated this isn't even about Seiji this is about Being informed by you guys of what is going on.
--
Love, Regina
From: carol
Subject: RE: Re the strange stories we hear!!!
To:
Jeff - You are so full of doo doo.
Plus you know that this is not my correct e-mail address.
But ha! Now I know 2 of yours. Naah naah naah
jeff wrote:
Carol now has a record with the county DA for assault and domestic abuse, its the last time she hits or kicks me in front of my son and is allowed to get away with it.
The sheriff went to her door , she was was too paranoid to answer , so only my statement was taken and recorded , this along with all the verbal, phone (recorded) threats and written threats show a very good picture of who she really is. I have collected quite a record of her narcissistic and psychotic behavior.
It will be very powerful in court an/or mediation.
Seiji has also said, "Mommy burned me" and "mommy hit me." I have photos and witnesses of his injuries. So next is CPS.
She also tells me that she is no longer on antidepressants, this is probably a lie, but if true, it could be even more dangerous for Seiji. She lies continuously about her having interviews for jobs, her car is broke down, etc. She also drops Seiji off with her drug addict friend Terri, I know this because Seiji tells me.
Love,
Jeff
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From: me
To: jeff
Subject: FW: Re the strange stories we hear!!!
Date: Mon, 25 Jun 2007 16:23:31 +0000
--
Love, Regina
-------------- Forwarded Message: --------------
From: Carol
To: me and carol
Subject: Re the strange stories we hear!!!
Date: Sun, 24 Jun 2007 10:26:44 +0000
HI again - I think I already addressed all the information below in my first e-mail!
The only reason I said anything to Jeff about police/sherriff's is to try to get him to understand that he's putting you all in a predicament by not letting me know where my little boy is! I am supposed to be kept informed where he is, whether he's with family or others. Jeff's interpretation of family law, the mediator's report, and the judge's orders, is not accurate (not to mention that he fully irritates the hell out of the Judge, but that's another story). Jeff really does think that if he's with family, then I have no right to know anything. He does NOT consider what is in Seiji's best interest at all, and that's the important thing that the court emphasizes over and over. Monica told me that he even used to refuse to tell her where he lived which is against both state and federal law, but Jeff is apparently exempt.
I'm very much in agreement about what you state below regarding schedules, wheraqbouts etc. Even if I were at a conference, I would provide you that Emergency number for the p eople putting on the conference as well as a hotel number! You and I are very much alike in that we want to know what store you're going to and when you're getting back. When someone is a minute late I start to panic and will call over and over. I've always appreciated that about you as well. For some of the silly things you and I have done in our lives, there are those certain rules that we are sticklers too!
I do hope to talk with you soon!
Love,
Carol
(REMEMBER - different e-mail!!!)
I wrote:
Carol,
Now I am told by Jeff that you knew before you even left town that I would be watching Seiji. Why then did you say he didn't notify you? Why then didn't you call me and let me know exactly when you are picking Seiji up? Why are you know threatening to call the cops on Jeff's family? He said you have called him again and that you are threatening to call the cops on us. For what? Taking lovingly care of your child is a crime? Since when is it a crime?
I told Jeff that it is absolutely no problem to watch Seiji. My biggest problem is just not knowing when I can expect him to be picked up. I don't think that is unreasonable request and I am disappointed that this whole thing is now totally blown up. Jeff is now pissed at me and thinks that I don't want to watch his son. NOT THE CASE. As I said, I was told one thing and then when I called to verify it, I get a different story. Sorry Jeff you didn't tell me you talked to Carol about him being here. And no I wouldn't have reason to assume that you are required to notify Carol that I am watching him. As you know, I do not share custody of Aiden so I don't have personal experience with this. Jeff you told me before that you are NOT required to notify Carol when he is being watched by family. So that is why I didn't know you told her. I didn't get a call from her stating when she would be coming so again I wouldn't ha ve reason to believe you told her. Don't know who's fault it is, but if I watch Seiji again I need to know the specifics. Seiji has been no trouble at all. I am a planner and I pay attention to detail. I don't like not knowing what is going on. Even if a different route is taken to the grocery store I will ask where are you going, I thought you were going to the grocery store. That is who I am. I want to know what is going on at all times.
Sorry Jeff that you are so terribly worried about Seiji as I stated this isn't even about Seiji this is about Being informed by you guys of what is going on.
--
Love, Regina
Friday, June 22, 2007
letter to Peter
Peter,
I am grateful Maria ended up with us for the week, as she was a tremendous help. I told her that God must have had his hand in that one. Please try to remember though, that I am an only child. The majority of my entire life I have been alone, except of boyfriends in the home etc. I am not used to having company spending the night. So for me, even though Maria and Seiji are family, it still feels like her and Seiji are house guests. I never feel like I can let my hair down and relax. Probably just like you feel like when you have to go to Monti's house to visit. I know you aren't the most comfortable there. It really is the same feeling for me when company comes over. I need a break. I haven't had a break from company since last Sunday. I have been "ON" 24.7 for the last 6 days. Then it would have turned into 7 had we still planned on this BBQ. The kids were awake past 11 pm last night needing this or that. Seiji crying for his mommy and daddy, Aiden needing gas medicine and cream for his back and then tylenol for the pain and then them getting out of bed and hitting their heads, etc.
Truly I love your family and love being a part of. I enjoy them emensely so this has more to do with me needing my space back for a few days than it does them personally or any other guest for that matter. I know my limits. Perhaps you should go spend a week living with my dad to know what I am talking about. Ha! I just saw your eyes get big and a big fat NO flash across your brain. See what I am talking about? Although by far your family doesn't talk as much as my dad, but when you get the two kids together there isn't much difference. I know you can attest to this when you walk thru the front door every night. So, with that I would appreciate a little more understanding about not wanting the BBQ on Sat. I have felt like I have been going going since before finals. I started work on the house right away, then got sick and went to Six flags any way took a short break and then I was back at it again working on the house, having company again etc, etc.--
I am grateful Maria ended up with us for the week, as she was a tremendous help. I told her that God must have had his hand in that one. Please try to remember though, that I am an only child. The majority of my entire life I have been alone, except of boyfriends in the home etc. I am not used to having company spending the night. So for me, even though Maria and Seiji are family, it still feels like her and Seiji are house guests. I never feel like I can let my hair down and relax. Probably just like you feel like when you have to go to Monti's house to visit. I know you aren't the most comfortable there. It really is the same feeling for me when company comes over. I need a break. I haven't had a break from company since last Sunday. I have been "ON" 24.7 for the last 6 days. Then it would have turned into 7 had we still planned on this BBQ. The kids were awake past 11 pm last night needing this or that. Seiji crying for his mommy and daddy, Aiden needing gas medicine and cream for his back and then tylenol for the pain and then them getting out of bed and hitting their heads, etc.
Truly I love your family and love being a part of. I enjoy them emensely so this has more to do with me needing my space back for a few days than it does them personally or any other guest for that matter. I know my limits. Perhaps you should go spend a week living with my dad to know what I am talking about. Ha! I just saw your eyes get big and a big fat NO flash across your brain. See what I am talking about? Although by far your family doesn't talk as much as my dad, but when you get the two kids together there isn't much difference. I know you can attest to this when you walk thru the front door every night. So, with that I would appreciate a little more understanding about not wanting the BBQ on Sat. I have felt like I have been going going since before finals. I started work on the house right away, then got sick and went to Six flags any way took a short break and then I was back at it again working on the house, having company again etc, etc.--
My final letter to both Peter and Uncle Solar Am I a total bitch?
Dear Jeff,
The entire reason I asked you to call Carol was so that you could pin down an exact date of when she could pick Seiji up. You frequently had complained that Carol doesn't pick up Seiji on her scheduled days. I witnessed this myself on Mothers Day. I didn't want the same scenario to happen to me and I advised you of that verbally. I thought also by chance that if Carol knew I was the one taking care of Seiji that by chance she would want to pick up her son as scheduled. I guess I did not make myself clear. It wasn't just a matter of calling her or emailing her and saying hey by the way, Regina is watching our son. I could have done that myself.
Now I understand emergencies come up. We have one on our hands right now. I am not in a huff over it because Carol gave me the courtesy of calling and letting me know her mom was in the hospital and that she needed to wait for her brother to show before she could leave. By anyone's standards, I would guess that for 24/7 - 5 days in a row of watching two 3 year olds it is a challenge and not just because I am some self centered biotch. Maria was at the end of her patience yesterday when we had to take away the Thomas train set and put the two boys in separate rooms to play until they could play with each other with out fighting. She too can attest to this. I am not some uncaring, uncompassionate person who hates little kids. I merely had expectations that babysitting would only be for a few days and that I would have plenty of time between to take a break and then get ready for the BBQ on Sat. Thankfully Peter canc elled it for me, although it was not with out complete and utter diappointment that I am not a robot that can perform and do things for other people several days in a row. He is not very understanding when it comes to things like that. Regina
The entire reason I asked you to call Carol was so that you could pin down an exact date of when she could pick Seiji up. You frequently had complained that Carol doesn't pick up Seiji on her scheduled days. I witnessed this myself on Mothers Day. I didn't want the same scenario to happen to me and I advised you of that verbally. I thought also by chance that if Carol knew I was the one taking care of Seiji that by chance she would want to pick up her son as scheduled. I guess I did not make myself clear. It wasn't just a matter of calling her or emailing her and saying hey by the way, Regina is watching our son. I could have done that myself.
Now I understand emergencies come up. We have one on our hands right now. I am not in a huff over it because Carol gave me the courtesy of calling and letting me know her mom was in the hospital and that she needed to wait for her brother to show before she could leave. By anyone's standards, I would guess that for 24/7 - 5 days in a row of watching two 3 year olds it is a challenge and not just because I am some self centered biotch. Maria was at the end of her patience yesterday when we had to take away the Thomas train set and put the two boys in separate rooms to play until they could play with each other with out fighting. She too can attest to this. I am not some uncaring, uncompassionate person who hates little kids. I merely had expectations that babysitting would only be for a few days and that I would have plenty of time between to take a break and then get ready for the BBQ on Sat. Thankfully Peter canc elled it for me, although it was not with out complete and utter diappointment that I am not a robot that can perform and do things for other people several days in a row. He is not very understanding when it comes to things like that. Regina
I'm mad as hell and I ain't gonna take it no mo
I don't even remember the last time I posted.
This is what has gone on. First I agreed to watch Seji for a FEW days. I told uncle Solar that I needed for him to talk to his ex and to pin down a specific date when she was coming to get Seiji because if it turned out like it does with him and she doesn't come get Seiji I will have watched Seiji for atleast 6 days until he returned on the 23. Seiji arrived at noon on Monday. Monday night he called and said her plane was arriving tomorrow. I said oh, I wasn't expecting her til Wednesday but that is fine. Her plane he said was arriving Tuesday after noon. So I didn't execpt her to show that night. Mind you Maria has been at our house sine Sunday night. Peter talked with her last Sat and found out that she relapsed and had gotten beat up. SHe was down in the dumps so I told him to ask her if she would like to stay a few days.
So any ways, Wednesday rolls around and I finally have Carol's phone number from Jeff so I called. She claims that her flight wasn't coming in until Thurs and that she will be in to pick Seiji up that eve. She said she couldn't be bothered to be told by unclse Solar that Seiji was being watched by me. I said, oh so you haven't known that he has been heresince Monday. She said he simply sent her an email stating that Seiji was at my house. Far cry from what I told him I needed for him to do. I thought I had made it clear that I would not agree to watch Seiji unless I knew exactly when the kid was being picked up. I then proceed to send an email to the both of them. keboard courage and all. Stating that the lack of their ability to communicate with one another has affected me and my family. I was hot.I told uncle Solar that he never even bothered to tell me whether or not he talked with Carol. She never even bothered to call and check on her son or to make arrangements to pick him up even after she finally knew h was here. Fucking irresponsible parents@!!
So Jeff calls me on the phone. Starts ylling at me that ofcourse he told Carol Seiji was here. I said how the hell would I have known and it was more that just telling her he as here I wanted to know when the hell he was being picked up. He couldn't grasp that concept at all. I ended up hanging up on him. He talked to Peter for a while and was supposedly worried that I didn't want to watch Seiji and that he was some how being misstreated or some shit like that. I wrote back to him and said this had nothing to do with Seiji personally thta at one point Jeff told me he never had to tell Carol that family was watching his son. So how the fuck would I have known any damned conversation went on at all. he never said shit to me. He wrote back a letter stating how surprised he was to see my "rage" and how I only think of myself yadda yadda so I wrote one last fucking email stating exactly what I have been doing for # of his family members for the last week and how I alos had plans to have a BBQ as Requested by Peter so no I am not only thinking of myself. I told him over and over I am a planner and I like to know exactly what is going on at all times. To bad he never fully could understand how it looked from my end. He drops his son off and then I don't know shit about what is going on. I told him I don't do face to face confrontations well so it was easier and more polite of me to write. I told him I know how I get and trust me it is a lot more worse for me to go at him verbally. He was all what happened the angelic lovey Regina Whcih is the real Regina? I felt like saying I am the same Regina you fucking moron just like you are the same Jeff when you yell at Seiji's mamma calling her a cunt whore bitch to her face.
This is what has gone on. First I agreed to watch Seji for a FEW days. I told uncle Solar that I needed for him to talk to his ex and to pin down a specific date when she was coming to get Seiji because if it turned out like it does with him and she doesn't come get Seiji I will have watched Seiji for atleast 6 days until he returned on the 23. Seiji arrived at noon on Monday. Monday night he called and said her plane was arriving tomorrow. I said oh, I wasn't expecting her til Wednesday but that is fine. Her plane he said was arriving Tuesday after noon. So I didn't execpt her to show that night. Mind you Maria has been at our house sine Sunday night. Peter talked with her last Sat and found out that she relapsed and had gotten beat up. SHe was down in the dumps so I told him to ask her if she would like to stay a few days.
So any ways, Wednesday rolls around and I finally have Carol's phone number from Jeff so I called. She claims that her flight wasn't coming in until Thurs and that she will be in to pick Seiji up that eve. She said she couldn't be bothered to be told by unclse Solar that Seiji was being watched by me. I said, oh so you haven't known that he has been heresince Monday. She said he simply sent her an email stating that Seiji was at my house. Far cry from what I told him I needed for him to do. I thought I had made it clear that I would not agree to watch Seiji unless I knew exactly when the kid was being picked up. I then proceed to send an email to the both of them. keboard courage and all. Stating that the lack of their ability to communicate with one another has affected me and my family. I was hot.I told uncle Solar that he never even bothered to tell me whether or not he talked with Carol. She never even bothered to call and check on her son or to make arrangements to pick him up even after she finally knew h was here. Fucking irresponsible parents@!!
So Jeff calls me on the phone. Starts ylling at me that ofcourse he told Carol Seiji was here. I said how the hell would I have known and it was more that just telling her he as here I wanted to know when the hell he was being picked up. He couldn't grasp that concept at all. I ended up hanging up on him. He talked to Peter for a while and was supposedly worried that I didn't want to watch Seiji and that he was some how being misstreated or some shit like that. I wrote back to him and said this had nothing to do with Seiji personally thta at one point Jeff told me he never had to tell Carol that family was watching his son. So how the fuck would I have known any damned conversation went on at all. he never said shit to me. He wrote back a letter stating how surprised he was to see my "rage" and how I only think of myself yadda yadda so I wrote one last fucking email stating exactly what I have been doing for # of his family members for the last week and how I alos had plans to have a BBQ as Requested by Peter so no I am not only thinking of myself. I told him over and over I am a planner and I like to know exactly what is going on at all times. To bad he never fully could understand how it looked from my end. He drops his son off and then I don't know shit about what is going on. I told him I don't do face to face confrontations well so it was easier and more polite of me to write. I told him I know how I get and trust me it is a lot more worse for me to go at him verbally. He was all what happened the angelic lovey Regina Whcih is the real Regina? I felt like saying I am the same Regina you fucking moron just like you are the same Jeff when you yell at Seiji's mamma calling her a cunt whore bitch to her face.
Friday, June 15, 2007
temp. today
It's 86 F at 9:30 am. The expected high is 102 degrees F. I think, if I can find a suit that fits, we will hit the public pool today to cool off.
Wednesday, June 13, 2007
Home improvement
The last of my work is to touch up pain the walls. I went to the paint shop an asked for a gallon to match the sample I had ofthe flat wall paint. I brought it home and put it on the wall. Two very large walls and several smaller. The larger walls I had covered from the bottom to half way up the wall and several feet long. The friggin color was too light. So I took it back in and they darkened it. So I tested it on the dining room area. It looked to be amatch so I kept on covering up the first paint job. I finished it up in the bedroom. Later in the day I noticed that it in fact was not a match and was still noticeably too light. Now I am a half gallon into the wrong color. I took it in yesterday and brought it home today. This time I will do a small patch in each room and then let it dry. No more stupidity. I hope it matches because I don't want to have to paint the entire walls.
We are still waiting to here from the mortgage guy who said we may qualify for a special program for people who are upside down in their loan. I asked Peter to call the guy for an update but he said that the mortgage broker said it would take a few weeks because it is a new program. I am getting impatient, especially since we have worked so hard these last several weeks getting the house spring cleaned, inside and out.
We are still waiting to here from the mortgage guy who said we may qualify for a special program for people who are upside down in their loan. I asked Peter to call the guy for an update but he said that the mortgage broker said it would take a few weeks because it is a new program. I am getting impatient, especially since we have worked so hard these last several weeks getting the house spring cleaned, inside and out.
Monday, June 11, 2007
Monday
I was still sick when we went to Six Flags. I didn't eat anything at the park. I just drank these snow cone like things. When we first got there until around 2, I was wishing I had stayed home or at the very least lie down in the car. I held up though and ate on the way home. I was too tired on Friday to get ready for a party, so I cancelled. Peter wasn't happy, but I was not about to put myself through trying to get it all done in one day. The kids spent the night Thursday night and went home on Friday for Jared's birthday party. We were invited, but I wasn't about to go and feel like a wall flower, when Peter knew everyone because him and his ex were married for 15 years. I told him he could go but I wasn't about to that it would feel too awkward.
I did clean house on Sat and Sun. It took me two days, so I know I wouldn't have been able to get that party done. I still haven't hit the grocery store. Peter went back to work today. Thhhhhp.
I took a break today and took Aiden to the park. It is hotter than the dickens these past several days. He layed down for a nap so I did a test patch on the wall to see if they finally got the color to match. So far it looks like we might have it. We will be done when I get all the Walls touched up. I am anxious to get this appraisal and to see what this mortgage guy can do for us. Some special program is going on for people who are upside down in their mortgage. I hope we qualify.
I did clean house on Sat and Sun. It took me two days, so I know I wouldn't have been able to get that party done. I still haven't hit the grocery store. Peter went back to work today. Thhhhhp.
I took a break today and took Aiden to the park. It is hotter than the dickens these past several days. He layed down for a nap so I did a test patch on the wall to see if they finally got the color to match. So far it looks like we might have it. We will be done when I get all the Walls touched up. I am anxious to get this appraisal and to see what this mortgage guy can do for us. Some special program is going on for people who are upside down in their mortgage. I hope we qualify.
Wednesday, June 06, 2007
Just got a call back from Peter. He said his son just now got home from his cousins. So Peter said forget it about him coming up to do chores and earn money. He said it as if he was mad at me. I can't help it if I have been sick and it is not my problem that his son wasn't home earlier so that his mom could meet me half way. She has to take Andrew to counseling or something at 11.
I feel like telling him off but I won't.
I feel like telling him off but I won't.
pissy mood
Maria was at our house until Sunday. We got a lot accomplished but I still have some touch up painting to do. I ended up having to watch Seiji on Monday and I had the flu also. The kind where you have diarrhea and vomiting. I was vomiting until 10 that night. My dad came and helped yesterday and all i could think about was that we were going to 6 flags on Thursday which only leaves me Fri to clean house, paint, shop and cook for Peter's birthday party on Sat. Then Peter says that Jared needs to be picked up today because he is broke and wants to work around our house.
It is now 10:13 and I do not know what is going on. Peter tried calling him and he hasn't returned his dad's calls. I called and his phone is forwarded to voice mail. This kids inability to manage his money is not my f'in problem. I still don't have much energy and wanted to just take it easy since tomorrow is a huge day of walking. To top it off uncle Solar and Seiji are coming tomorrow as well.
Man I am in a pissy mood. I don't want any one to expect anything of me today.
It is now 10:13 and I do not know what is going on. Peter tried calling him and he hasn't returned his dad's calls. I called and his phone is forwarded to voice mail. This kids inability to manage his money is not my f'in problem. I still don't have much energy and wanted to just take it easy since tomorrow is a huge day of walking. To top it off uncle Solar and Seiji are coming tomorrow as well.
Man I am in a pissy mood. I don't want any one to expect anything of me today.
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